For most of my life, I’ve been fighting for connection.
Not in a dramatic, romantic movie way. In a quiet, exhausting, soul-eroding way. A way that began in childhood, was inherited from the women before me, and has shown up in every intimate relationship I’ve ever had — and, surprisingly (or maybe not), in my business too.
This blog is personal. But it’s also strategic. Because what I’ve come to understand — after years of studying energetic blueprints, working with hundreds of brands, decoding my own subconscious patterns — is this:
How you fight for connection in your relationships is often exactly how you chase clients, visibility, and validation in your business.
And if that fight is rooted in an unhealed wound, your brand will always feel like hard work. Like chasing. Like trying to prove you’re worthy of being chosen.
So let’s talk about it. Let’s go deep.
The Pattern That Follows You
In all three of my significant relationships, the pattern repeated.
At the start, there’s excitement. Chemistry. Hope. The promise of being seen, of building something soulful. But then, slowly, something fades. The man disconnects. He becomes distant, uninterested, emotionally unavailable. And I begin to carry the weight of the relationship on my own.
With my first partner, there were spiritual conversations. We were growing together in some ways. But still — I didn’t feel loved. I didn’t feel seen. He was affectionate in public, but emotionally, there was a gap. A silent void. A sense of being controlled more than cherished.
With my second partner, there was trauma. Emotionally volatile, yes — but also emotionally weak. I carried his pain, his story, my own wounds, and the burden of keeping everything afloat. Again — I was alone in the emotional space. I was trying to force connection. Trying to earn love.
And then with my third partner the wound became louder. More obvious. There was never yelling. Never cruelty. In fact, there was deep respect. But also… silence. A lack of depth. A refusal to talk about anything beyond the surface. I waited for him to initiate a conversation that never came. I waited days. Weeks. And then, I’d explode. Try to drag him into awareness. Into transformation. Into feeling. And still — nothing.
It was like talking to myself. Fighting for air in a sealed room.
And only recently did I realise — I’ve been here before. Not just in love. But in business, too.
How It Shows Up In Business
Back in my photography days, I’d often find myself chasing leads. A woman would reach out, say she’s interested in a session, and then disappear. I’d worry. Obsess. Write reminder messages. Wonder what I did wrong. Did I not follow up soon enough? Was I too much? Should I chase again?
Sometimes, they just forgot. Sometimes, they changed their minds. Sometimes, they were never serious to begin with. But I still felt rejected. Not chosen. Not valuable enough.
And the more I chased, the less they responded.
The more energy I poured in, the more I got silence in return.
Sound familiar?
It’s the exact same wound.
The wound of fighting to be seen. Fighting to be chosen. Fighting to be worthy of connection.
The Brand Wound: When Your Business Mirrors Your Inner Child
What I now understand — through my own healing and through guiding others — is this:
Your brand is never just a logo or a message.
Your brand is your emotional pattern made visible.
If you grew up feeling unseen, you might over-explain your services, over-give in your sessions, or feel hurt when someone doesn’t respond to your content.
If you had to earn love in your family, you might find yourself discounting your work, justifying your worth, or tailoring your message to fit in — rather than letting it boldly reflect your essence.
If you learned that emotional availability was rare, you might create a brand that performs rather than connects. That informs rather than transforms.
And none of this is your fault. But it is your responsibility to rewrite.
Can It Be Healed?
Here’s the truth I’ve come to:
Some wounds never fully disappear — but they lose their power when they are seen and felt.
Healing doesn’t mean you’ll never be triggered. It means you’ll recognise the trigger and choose a different response.
For me, that meant recognising that:
- I don’t need to chase clients. I need to become magnetic to the ones who are ready.
- I don’t need to carry the emotional labour of a relationship alone. I need to stop settling for partnerships where depth is optional.
- I don’t need to prove my worth through productivity or spiritual insight or perfection. I am the message.
The wound might still whisper. But now, I don’t obey it.
Brand Identity Strategy as Healing
This is why my branding work isn’t just about colours and taglines.
It’s about identity, connection, and truth.
When we work together on your Quantum Essence Branding, we don’t just build a business — we decode your energetic blueprint. We look at:
- What ancestral patterns are shaping your visibility?
- Where are you carrying old stories about your worth, your voice, your value?
- How are your Human Design, astrology, Gene Keys, and numerology showing you the keys to alignment?
We don’t stop there. We also uncover the subconscious blocks through:
- Quantum Root Code: A self-inquiry process (AI-guided or 1:1) to identify ancestral and emotional conditioning — especially those patterns you learned through family, school, or society.
- Quantum Visibility Code: A leadership and visibility-focused tool for purpose-driven creators and entrepreneurs who want to be seen without compromising who they are.
You can access these as stand-alone digital journeys or as part of deeper branding packages. Either way — it’s about transforming your brand by transforming the you behind it.
Because when you stop fighting for connection — and start embodying it — everything shifts.
Your brand becomes magnetic.
Your message becomes a mirror.
Your presence becomes undeniable.
Final Words: You Are Not Too Much
To the woman who feels like she’s “too much”:
Too emotional. Too intense. Too complex. Too honest.
I see you.
You are not too much. You are truthful. You are awake. You are ready.
And your business — your brand — deserves to reflect the real you. Not the version shaped by wounds or ancestral silence.
If you’re ready to stop chasing and start magnetising — whether through your brand, your personal journey, or both — I invite you to dive deeper.
Explore my Quantum Essence Blueprint, Brand Alchemi services, or AI-guided transformational tools.
Because the way you show up in relationships is how you show up in business.
Let’s make both feel like home.
I’m passionate about helping entrepreneurs align their brands with their true essence, creating businesses that resonate deeply and magnetically attract their ideal clients. Through Quantum Essence Branding service, I integrate astrology, Human Design, Gene Keys, and numerology, guided by AI-driven analysis and my intuitive approach. I believe that a brand is more than just visuals—it’s the energetic expression of your highest potential. My mission is to help you uncover and align with that essence, so you can step into a brand that reflects your soul’s purpose and thrives authentically in the marketplace. Whether you’re looking for personal transformation or a brand that truly resonates, I’m here to guide you through this powerful, co-creative journey. Let’s work together to clear blocks, align your energy, and create a business that feels as authentic as you are.